- Brides and Bridesmaids – Use nice purses and carry bags. You’ll be dressed up & only a beautiful hand bag will do. Plastic grocery bags do not look good in videography or photography; neither do plastic bottles of soda and water. It’s you big day! Splurge on some nice glasses or plastic champagne cups if you’re having a beach wedding. Wear waterproof makeup. Sweat and tears cause makeup to run, and raccoon eyes are not a good look on your wedding day! Carry an adorable clutch to refresh throughout the night. (Some of my favorite video shots are brides applying make up in the mirror; sexy video footage!)
- Ask everyone – bridesmaids, groomsmen, bride, groom and everyone who may be on camera, to not chew gum. Gum chewing looks awful on video and your photographer will have a terrible time getting a decent expression on unposed photographs.
- The bride & groom will understandably be nervous, but when it comes to saying vows, brides and grooms need to say those marriage vows, to each other, like they mean it. (Some nervous grooms and brides try to rattle the lines as fast as they can, while looking at the minister!)
- Grooms – During your first dance, try not to turn you back to the videographer. You don’t need to look at the camera, but we do want to see your face. (Trust me – it’s your best side.) This goes for all bridal party members. It’s just for one day. If you can play it up for the camera a bit, it’s all in good fun. If you’ve naturally got 2 left feet, practice a few dance moves before the wedding day, you’ll be in good form to “bust a move” at least once or twice during the reception party! ~Bride & Groom during First Dance at Boca Bay Pass Club in Gasparilla, FL
- If your professional videographer is using 1-Lux video cameras, like she should be, then it is alright to have the lights turned down low during dancing at your reception, but even 1-Lux cameras have limits, so be sure to go over this with your videographer. Generally speaking, if you can read in the light, it will be fine, but if it’s too dark to read, your video won’t have good colors. It’s a good idea to alert your banquet manager to this fact. Chandeliers look best when they are turned on! Accent lighting is very popular, just don’t go overboard. Flooding your whole reception hall with once color can make everyone look strange, and it gets old after a few hours. (Unless it’s Halloween Theme Party, you don’t want to see blue or green people all night.)
- Most photographers dress and conduct themselves professionally, but surprisingly about a third of them do not. To protect your wedding video, ask your photographer to not dress in bright colors or cut-off jeans, and not to get in front of the video cameras. You don’t want a loudly-dressed photographer distracting you everytime you watch your wedding video.
- Relax and be yourself. You’re beautiful and a professional videographer will capture your true personality with style in a flattering manner. ~ article written by Leslie Harris-Senac
Well, there you are. The wedding reception is over and you’re alone with your bride — finally. The wedding day can really take a toll on the groom and bride. You’re bound to be dead tired after hours of standing, posing, dancing, and talking to every family member and friend at the reception. If you’re like 55% of newlyweds, it’s time for bed. However, if you’re one of the lucky 45%: Game on! Here are some helpful tips on making wedding night sex an experience that you and your bride won’t soon forget.
First Things First
You need to chill out and relax for a bit after the wedding. But be careful, there’s a fine line between falling asleep and resting to build up some energy. Chances are, you’ll spend the first hour or so after the reception reminiscing about the wedding day and how great it was. We also recommend having a doggy bag prepared with wedding food from the reception. This is a standard practice with most caterers. Because most couples are too busy to eat very much during the day, food will replenish your body for the more strenuous activities to come.
Leslie’s Recommendation: One thing most guys may not realize about the wedding reception is that every time you have an empty hand, someone will probably hand you a drink. Word to the wise: Try to drink in moderation. You don’t want to have trouble rising to the occasion later.
Talk Dirty To Me
Of course, we’re talking about telling your brand new wife how special she is, and how beautiful she looked in her wedding dress. Nothing will likely get your bride in the mood more than hearing this. She’s been looking forward to this day for quite some time.
From there, the conversation can turn to more arousing material.
Turning in the V-Card?
First off, congratulations are in order to those of you who held out and waited for marriage. We’re certain it wasn’t easy to do. The main thing to remember in planning for the first time is not to stress yourself out. Let’s be honest: your performance the first time won’t be perfect. But what will be perfect is the experience. However, if you really want to impress her, I recommend picking up a book on the art of love making. Trust me, they’re out there. Just be careful about how much you put into practice the first time — you don’t want her to wonder where you learned all of your tricks. Just be sincere and loving; make your bride feel special.
Bag of Tricks
Since you’ll (hopefully) never get another shot at wedding night sex, why not make it an experience that will be hard to top? Whether you’re staying at a hotel or a house, plan ahead and have some rose petals, chocolate covered strawberries, champagne, or a combination of the three prepared in the bedroom. I don’t expect you guys to understand, but women dig this kind of stuff (especially brides). Another way to really set the mood is to create a mix CD of songs that have meant a lot to you and your bride. Pick songs that won’t get old because you’ll hopefully be hearing them on repeat all night long.
Leslie Recommendation: You know your bride-to-be better than us. Use this information as a jumping off point to planning your big night. The main thing to remember is making your bride feel special. If you can do that, you’ve already succeeded.
And remember the most important thing: It’s your wedding night, so kick back, relax and enjoy the ride. Or if you’re Superman, rides. Enjoy!
~by Leslie Harris Senac, Videographer serving Sarasota & Manatee Counties in Florida. She is a member of the Longboat Key Chamber of Commerce through her Weddings of Sarasota membership.
~Excerpts taken from www.themanregistry.com